Why Men Hate Valentines Day

So it’s Valentine’s Day today.

Rather interesting build up to Valentines day here in Malaysia if you ask me.

First the National Fatwa Council declared that was a Christian celebration that Muslims are forbidden to celebrate. (They also declared Yoga and chanting to be un-Islamic by the way). The Islamic Development Council (JAKIM) also went on an anti-Valentine’s day campaign to deter (ahem) innocent young Muslims from committing Khalwat or Maksiat…Then, local opposition parties said they were going ‘crackdown’ on couples trying to have immoral activities during V day. Here’s some of the news.

http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2011/2/12/nation/8054296&sec=nation
http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2011/2/12/nation/8054296&sec=nation

Many a ulamaks and Ustazah had already declared that all these immoral, hedonistic, maksiat-ic activities were of Christian nature.

The local Christian community were of course going “WTF? OMG? What’s this all about?” So the Church community duly declared that Valentines day was in fact NOT a religious celebration. They didn’t celebrate it anymore than they did Chap Goh Meh… The church shunned and preached against all sinful acts including immoral activities and overpriced flowers.

Needless to say, everyone eventually wanted to have put in their 5 cents on the matter. Politicians, NGO’s, Local Councils, Religious Departments… everyone started making press statements. Some agree, some disagree… rest just shrugged their shoulders and kept quiet.

But actually…. What most of us silently started to think was “Oh shit, it’s Valentines Day… AGAIN.” Well… at least the men do.

All men hate Valentines day just in case you didn’t know yet. Men associate it with overpriced flowers, fixed couples menus, unrealistic romantic expectations, and most disturbingly, a big hole in your pocket. If you’re a man and you don’t hate Valentines day, its may be because you aren’t dating anyone yet, OR romance comes second nature to you… in which case you’re probably Italian or Alien.

Women are divided into two. The ones that naively innocently expect to be romanced on this allegedly special day by their lover boy…. and the ones that battle-hardened enough to know that men just aren’t going to do anything (unless creatively forced into it).

Yes, creatively forced into it…

Because women being women… WANT to be romanced…. and they want it to be a natural part of the relationship. They want to man to wine and dine her, serenade her with sweet song, read poems to her, call her beautiful names and make her feel like the most specialest-est person on earth.

But women being women, also know well enough that men, being men, would not bother to make the effort without being coerced motivated into it. And so women come up with a lot of not-so-subtle hints that they expect something special on Valentine’s day.

Men being men, find that romance does not come naturally to them. Once in a while, yes. But naturally? No. But again men being men, usually try their best not to disappoint their other half. Hence after receiving various ‘hints’ that something special is expected on Valentines day, they give in. They have private mourning sessions in the foreknowledge that their wallets are about to be raped, and the devil-incarnate will dawn upon them in the form of Flower shops and Florist selling a dozen roses for three hundred dollars.

Many women cry when they receive flowers on Valentine’s day. But I’ll tell you a secret. Men cry too…. when we buy it that is.

Men are the sort that are used to doing things on their own terms. We don’t like it when we are forced to play by other people’s terms. And that’s exactly what happens on Valentine’s Day. The florist sets their terms, the gift and card shops sets their terms, and the restaurants sets their terms. Instead of feeling like a man taking charge of romancing his lady, we end up feeling like we’ve just been ripped off and emasculated more than anything else.

But it’s not all a lost. Even though romance is an alien word to us, men do try their best to make their partners happy, even if it cost us a little. Despite everything I’ve just said, men will still buy the overpriced flowers , expensive dinners and heart shaped chocolates to win a lady's hear.

Why?

Because we still love you more than we hate Valentines day.

Have a Happy Valentines Day everyone….